Monday, November 11, 2013

A Quilt With Many Pieces

After my last post I had a great discussion with T about these sort of issues. Chances are I'll only run into them for a few more months. Chances are they'll be running into them for the rest of their lives.

I was thrilled to see that the guys had their wits abut them. That this instance of hate didn't get under their skin nearly as much as it did mine. That it rolled off their backs like water off of a duck. A great trait in a good parent, I might add. T shared with my a publication sent to he and M from Growing Generations. I wish I could post it here, as it is beautifully written and stated, but it's likely copy written. And I don't think they want this joey born behind bars.

So, I'm jut going to paraphrase some of the finer points.

The best of it to me is this snippet: A baby isn't born knowing what is "normal" and what is not. That is taught. They are born able to recognize love, and look to that love for guidance about how the world SHOULD be.

This child won't be born sad that there is no female parental figure in his/her life. This child won't even realize that they're "missing" out on anything. And in fact, with proper nurturing, overtime could come to feel they've really got the best of it through their unique exposure to two dads.

This isn't a recipe with a missing ingredient. 
It's a quilt with many pieces. 

Will the teen years be hard? Yes. Were you an easier teen because you had a mom and a dad? Will other parents be cruel? Yes. Have YOU ever been judged by other parents? Each of these experiences adds a patch to the quilt that will create a beautiful and unique story. We should all be so lucky to have such a warm and beautiful quilt.

1 comment:

  1. Beautifully stated! And this baby will totally have a female role model - both IFs have mothers, and that sweet baby in the next post belongs to a sister. So when it comes to explaining how to use a tampon, I'm sure they'll be able to find a good stand-in, and if not, those things come with instructions, anyway. :)