Monday, August 26, 2013

All Done, And A MAJOR Announcement

Here are E.D. and I, playing Vanna White with the screen. We're highlighting the white blob that is/are the future children for M&T. Here's a rundown of what happened today.

Our two little Emryos

Our stats:

12 eggs received
11 eggs mature
9 eggs fertilized 
4 eggs highly viable
2 eggs transferred 

When we arrived at the clinic I was called back to the room almost instantly. Probably because of the film crew following me around. (Yes, film crew. Keep reading.)

I then had to sit in the room for quite awhile while we signed all sorts of papers. Some were to allow for the transfer to happen, some were to allow for the procedure to be filmed. Then we all crowded into the room. The doc, the nurse, me, the E.D., my aunt Becky, the camera woman and the audio man. Then we had an embarrassing fumble with Skype while we tried to get the boys tuned in to the show.

Aunt Becky!
Perhaps the most awkward part of this all was my sitting on a table, nude from the waste down with a pair of complete strangers rolling film. I hadn't really prepared for that.

Finally, everything was ready. I laid back and the catheter was inserted into the cervix. I did not feel a thing. Moments later I watched as the little white embryo blob went in. And then that was that. I feel so proud. I feel so excited. And, truly, I feel so tired.

I know you won't let me get away 

with just telling that much. 

The big announcement, obviously, is that I will be followed by a film crew for the rest of my journey.

What is it?  

I have been asked and have accepted invitation to work with Charles Smith, a film maker living in NYC on his project, titled "Atypical Family." The feature follows women in every phase of the surrogacy process. B's egg retrieval was recorded last week as part of the process. Other past surrogates will have supplemental interviews added to the project as well. The film maker will follow me, my family, and my uterus up to (and through) the delivery room.

Why do it? 

The film seeks to educate and dispel myths surrounding surrogates and surrogacy in general. This quite literally fell into my lap without any provocation. I am over the moon to be in a position to help a cause I feel so passionately about. We are a unique story, since I know our Egg Donor, and she is a family member. On a micro level I was very excited for the living, breathing yearbook that this film will create for these tiny embryos, inserted just today. Someday they'll be able to watch their creation, and hear those most closely involved with their creation tell the story. I am proud to be creating that for them.

Where can I see it? 

The project has not yet found a permanent home. It is being highly shopped by a national platform you've all heard of, with a few other entities showing interest as well. I can't reveal who yet though. Please don't ask. It may also wind up being circulated on the Indy Film circuit in NYC in the future.

Want to learn more? 

Charles Smith has just secured a domain site for further exploration of the film and it's intent. Once that's live, I will absolutely post details here. In the meantime, learn more about Charles, here.


  1. I am so thrilled for you! I am truly brought to tears of joy reading about the impact you have made and will continue make. Some say the tiniest pebble dropped in a still pond makes a giant rippling effect. It just took one woman to say yes, yes you can borrow my uterus to grow your baby. By saying yes you have changed the trajectory of your life, M & T's life and who knows how many others who are able to read your story and now watch your story. A new life(lives) will be here because you had the courage to say yes. Parents will hold and kiss a baby they otherwise would have only dreamed about, prayed about and wished for. I don't know if saying I'm proud of you is proper but girlfriend I am so proud of you!!! LOL!! You have positively impacted the world for GENERATIONS!! Just think one day generations from now your story will still be told and because of you life will be better. Who knows the awesome impact of the child(ren) you carry or their grandchildren will make! It's so awesome! I will continue to pray for you, your family, your new surrogate family and all those surrounding you. You're the bomb!! :)

    1. Heather,
      Thank you so much for your very kind and encouraging words. I didn't set out to do anything more than get pregnant a third time. But this has taken on a life force of it's own now. And I could not be more proud.

  2. We're so proud of you! This is amazing :)

  3. We're so proud of you! This is amazing :)

  4. How fun and what an amazing keepsake this will be for both you and your IF's. Look forward to watching the documentary.

    1. I'm excited on a macro and a micro level. I can't wait to see the final project myself.

  5. That is really awesome and I can sense the intensity of happiness all around you. Thank you for sharing your happiness with us too.

    Kind Regards,
    Kunik Goel

    1. So, SO happy!!! I'm glad that my small decision is going to impact so many others.

  6. That is AWESOME! Congratulations!

  7. Congrats and stickey vibes! Can't wait to watch!

  8. Hey there. I found you through Carla's blog. I am in the process of starting journey #2. My first was through GG, and this next one will be independent. I'm excited that I found your blog and I can't wait to follow along! I have a blog, too, if you'd like to check it out and follow me. :)